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This will be the first Father's Day without Dad, and it got me to thinking of all the advice that our dad's have given us over the years, and in turn - all the advice we've given our own kids.

 

Of all the advice Dad gave me, what sticks in my mind are . . .

 

1. "Do your best." I try - not always successfully.

 

2. "Don't drive around aimlessly." Well - that's pretty much what I do on the Vintage.

 

3. "Don't use something it wasn't meant for." So much for my use of tools.

 

4. "You never stop being a parent." So true.

 

And my all time favorite . . .

 

5. "Once is a lot if it happens to you." Which was his response to "but Dad, it's only happened once!"

 

What fatherly advice did you get and/or give?

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I'm sorry for your loss.

I miss my father terribly as well.

He had plenty of advice covering a variety of topics and life experiences (a great range of lessons in responsibility from WWII, the pleasure in seeing a job through, allowing others time to work through problems, honesty and honor at home and at work, and the mindlessness of bigotry), but his most commonly repeated advice was:

"Take care of my grandchildren."

"Take care of your mother."

"Spend your time with things that can make you happy all of your life."

Before everything else, Dad was a husband, father and grandfather.

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Just lost my father two and a half months ago, and I still can't get over wanting to call and ask a question to something I need to know that he would have the answer for. It is like losing a history book each time we lose one of the older generation. Always great advice and wisdom. Just hope I listened well enough!!!

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My Dad passed away in January and the one thing I remember him telling me the most is:

 

"Hold out your hands, wish in one and spit in the other and see which one gets full first." - His way of telling me to get my a$$.

 

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I'd like to say to all of you who still have your dad around to soak up every single second you have with him, and ask him to tell you all about his life. My wife's dad passed a few years ago at 83. Before he died, she was taking a course at the local community college and one assignment was to 'interview' her dad, on video, and ask him to talk about his whole life. She learned things she never would have known, and was able to see a side of him that she never knew, and also found things out about HER that she never knew. She treasures those visits and this video, and plans on passing it down to our 3 adult kids and grandkids so that they can see what 'Grandpa Johnston' was like.

My dad died of a massive stroke when he was 36 and I was 6. He left a wife and 5 kids behind, and I and my younger brother never really got to know him at all. I've heard stories from my older siblings and Mom before she died at 49, but since they were both only children, we have no aunts, uncles or cousins to fill in the blanks that were left. I tell all my friends the same thing, all the time...You NEVER know when that clock will stop ticking, and once it does, there'll be no more opportunities to say, "Hey, Pop, I love you, and thanks for taking care of me all those years!" When I hear any of them gripe about something their old man did or said, all I can say is- "I wish I could hear just a few words from my dad, no matter what they were. I'd take an ass-chewing from him and be happy to hear his voice again.

 

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My mother died back in 1982. One of the last times I saw her I was with my wife who was big-pregnant with our first child (daughter). My mother told my wife that if she didn't take care of her grandchild that she would come back and kick her ass. Yeah that was my mom... aka "Frying Pan Annie" because she once knocked out a big bad looking biker by hitting him in the head with an iron skillet.

 

My father died back in 2002 - when he died he left me a bit of money that I used to buy my first Indian, a 2003 Indian Chief with the PP100 engine. He gave me a lot of advice over they years - most of which I have ignored because he made a lot of poor decisions with his life. His advice about riding a motorcycle was good though...

 

Ride as if everyone in a car is actually trying to run you over.

Don't try to be fast through the turns, be smooth through the turns instead and speed will come naturally.

Watch the front tire of cars at intersections, you can spot movement there a lot easier.

 

stuff like that.

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My father and I were estranged for the better part of 10 years prior to his death. We made our peace in that final 12 months. My father was opinionated and a bit headstrong. That apple fell far from the tree... :laughlong:

 

A couple of his pearls:

 

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. But you can sure make him wish to hell he had.

 

If you want to make big money, you need to kiss them as you fuck them. This applies to more than prostitution....

 

Buy a kid a motorcycle for his last birthday....

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A couple of my dads best,

 

Don't ever turn down a piece of ass, as it might be your last.

 

Hope in one hand & piss in the other & see which one fills-up fastest

 

If you don't have the funds to buy an item, wait until you do...

 

And the best thing I learned from my dad was to never stop being active (walking Etc.) I learned this the day he had to move into a nursing home because he wouldn't walk & finally he "couldn't walk.

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Grandpa used to say " find something you're good at and enjoy doing and get someone to pay you to do it"

 

So far I haven't found anyone to pay me to jerk off and drink whiskey :(

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My old man croaked 20 years ago---smoked himself to death---I worked in the Auto shop he owned in my younger years. we spent a lot of time togeather along with my 3 younger brothers and Pops friends ---every day bout 4:30 or so his buddies would show up and Beer 30 was on---to top it off a neighborhood bar was next door, also known as his office. By the time I was out of high school he was a full blown Beeraholic and would get synical and obnoxious by 7:00 or 8:00 --His quotes were --need another Beer ?---u kids gota quit smokin that whacky tobackey.--- Some Skank is on the phone for you.--- Cant make a cadilac out of a sows ear. who stole the gas out of the customers car (huh wha)---never write ur name on ur underware in case you have to make a quick backdoor exit. Which one of u little bastards stole a pack of my camels. Shit in one hand and wish in the other then look see what u got. I Should of had ur Peckers whacked at age 12 ---And turn that Damn Longhair Music off . and once in a great while. love you little fuckers but Im a goin to kick ur ass. and one of my favorites, we'd say --Pop We should or we outa---and his responce was whos we, u got a turd in your pocket??? ---I really miss that old Red Neck-- even though He was a asshole when he got drunk---we would just outrun him.--next day he got up at 6:00 am and did it all over again as my MoM would chew his ass for being a dick the night befor.

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"Do what you think is right. ...I'll fix it later"

 

"I'd rather owe it to yo than cheat you out if it"

 

"You gotta learn yourself a trade. You'll never make money with those computer things"

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"You are judged in Heaven by how you do business".

 

This from a man who was not particularly religious. I remember those words every day and repeat them often. Made me successful I would say.

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My Dad had good advice that he would impart unto me as I was growing up. My folks divorced when I was about 7, but he would pop in and out of my life...usually when I needed it most.

One that stuck with me was when we were talking about what I thought I wanted to do with my future. I told him I'd like to go to college, but it takes so long to get through. He said, "Four or five years? You'll still be here in four or five years, but you'll be four or five years older and in the same place you are now."

That one stuck with me. I think of it whenever I get too lazy.

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